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Katherine was editor and publisher of a Christian newspaper called The New Life, and contributed articles on many subjects for several web sites, but her first love is exercising one of her spiritual gifts, that of encouraging and coaching others, especially her Christian brothers and sisters. Since God chose marriage as a means of providing a couple and their children the greatest possible life here on Earth, it is Katherine’s desire to coach you and your new love to give each other your very best! Again, we are thrilled to have Katherine Tapani sharing exciting new ideas that will make your personal ad and your communications unforgettable! |
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Tell the truth and nothing but the truth if you desire a Christian mate for life!
Truthfulness is what will separate you from the nasty manipulators and frauds that infest the internet, Christian singles! Thankfully most of them will pass up a Christian dating service, but some may slither in. They are the ones who lie about their age, weight, height, education, marital status, criminal record, etc. Most of them are “Cyber lizards” as aptly described in Dating Advice at christiandatemate.com Our thanks for permission to quote it:
“A very obvious Christian singles’ dating disaster is what I call the “Cyber Lizard” (borrowed from the term Lounge Lizard, a ne’er do well, who’s just looking for some entertainment, generally at your expense.) The Cyber Lizard is usually male, but there are a few female Cyber Lizards out there, too, so men be forewarned. They have no intention of finding a mate; they just want some attention and they don’t mind wasting hours of your time. They probably spam several men or women at once with the same form letter, just changing the salutation. It might be hard to spot them at first, but you should see a pattern emerge. They won’t be very interested in your views, opinions, or dreams, and probably won’t remember what you said in a previous e-mail! They will prove to be just as lukewarm about the Lord, too, Christian singles, which should send you packing! They probably won’t seem eager to meet, but would rather prolong the cyber-relationship forever.
Like the Cyber-Lizard, the Raunchy-mouthed Recluse uses chat rooms and personals ads just to while away their time. They are generally unemployed, most on the dole. In other words, they have a lot of time on their hands. This may be their only social outlet, and more than likely, their parents are happy to pay for their internet usage since it keeps them busy and out of their hair. It isn’t a crime to waste another person’s time, so the family thinks they have solved their problems when the Recluse finds online diversions that keep him or her occupied. You can spot the Recluse by the language they use. If they are vulgar, Christian singles, report them to the dating service at once so they can be removed from the membership list. If you ever wondered who would send vulgar e-mails, this is it! Picture them, unkempt, hair matted and dirty; loners, due to their own laziness. Some of them are obnoxious under-achievers, mad at the world and they want to tell everyone off. I’m sure you will catch on to them early, so they should only be a momentary irritation.”
Yes, while our Christian Dating Service does its best to screen out such people, a few may sneak in. Secular sites attract the greatest numbers of time wasters. A survey reported that a quarter of secular online daters agreed that telling lies on their singles dating profiles was OK. 21% thought exaggerating about their income was acceptable and lying about weight and height was not a problem either. About 14 % thought fibbing about age and interest in marriage was OK. The survey, Christian singles, found more men who admit they lie than women, but I don’t know what conclusion could be drawn from that!
While these nuisances are rare on Christian dating sites, you must be aware and never, ever fall for a stranger who seems perfect, before you have had many e-mails and later, phone calls, etc. If you think their photo is one of a model, you can ask for another picture. If you wonder if they really live where they say they do, there are many sites such as net detective (which requires a membership) and others like superpages.com that help you locate people. It is important for your peace of mind that you resist falling in love with a stranger, either on the web or offline near your home, before you have gotten to know him or her and your family and friends agree with your decision. And remember on your first meetings, there is safety in numbers. Even bring along a friend, Christian singles, so you can get some feedback after the date.
Every online dating subscriber will get “dropped” so don’t take it personally!
I hope you will
take this next bit of advice with full confidence that it happens to
everyone. Unless you fall in love and marry the first Christian Single you
contact, you will undoubtedly be “dropped” by one or more online dating
subscribers over time. Some may fall away fast, like the dating disasters
described above, but when someone you are interested in quits answering
your e-mail, don’t take it personally. Ever! There could be hundreds of
reasons why members abruptly quit communicating with you; many not even
concerning you, so why waste time fretting and wondering about it? In the
time you waste asking your friends why you were rejected, you could have met
a wonderful Christian man or Christian woman who really does want to marry
you! If you got depressed over losing someone who came into your life as
easily as sending an e-mail, what would you do if this happened off line,
after months of dating, meeting the families, etc.?
Meeting Christian singles online is the easiest way to find a mate, so as
they say, “easy come, and easy go.” Just decide to drop them too and move
on, not wasting precious time on what was only a dream, a possibility of a
future. If he or she quit e-mailing you, obviously this was not the one! Of
course it goes without saying that you will “drop” your share of singles as
well. Thus, you know that you had a good reason for dropping them, and there
may or may not have been anything wrong with them.
You might have seen ads for totally free Christian singles websites, but they are not a bargain in that they only apply to perhaps one denomination of singles in need of matchmaking and you will have limited choice. In addition, the website must make money to stay on line so they advertise other sites and products heavily, carry popup ads and a few even have cookies to track your internet movements.
Such free sites and secular sites may attract “the Bloodsucker” whose profile we will touch on briefly; Christian singles, since we have described many types of bloodsuckers above. Why would the free sites attract Bloodsucker? Because free sites are free. The sites charging a nominal fee will read each profile to screen out trouble. They also ask for ID and will not accept photos of models. Most demand payment by credit card, which can weed out Bloodsuckers. So an online dating site that is free can attract unscrupulous characters who are looking for an easy way. But remember, Christian singles, the vast majority of singles looking for real love will not want to hurt you or use you. Just take your time getting to know them and do not allow yourself to fall in love until they have met your family and friends.
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