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Katherine was editor and publisher of a Christian newspaper called The New Life, and contributed articles on many subjects for several web sites, but her first love is exercising one of her spiritual gifts, that of encouraging and coaching others, especially her Christian brothers and sisters. Since God chose marriage as a means of providing a couple and their children the greatest possible life here on Earth, it is Katherine’s desire to coach you and your new love to give each other your very best! Again, we are thrilled to have Katherine Tapani sharing exciting new ideas that will make your personal ad and your communications unforgettable! |
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A secret ingredient to spice up the recipe for your Christian singles ad!
By the way, I
promised to reveal a secret ingredient in your recipe for a Christian
singles personal ad and I’m going to deliver! We have already seen how
approaching writing your personals ad with zest, warmth, sincerity, and
openness can make your essay appeal to that special Christian man or woman
who will want to know you better. You have also put your best foot forward
by featuring a photo of yourself looking into the camera and imagining
having eye contact with the Christian single of your dreams. If you focus on
this image, your eyes and face will mirror what you feel inside for your
Christian soul mate. If you follow your coach’s suggestions about the all
important introductory photo, your personals ad will have prominence over
the 10% who do not supply a photo. And if you look right into the camera, as
if you were looking into the eyes of your future love muffin and smile
warmly, your personals ad will win out over maybe another 40% who actually
get around to supplying the Christian dating service with an irresistible
photo. Well, you might be thinking, if they supply a photo, how will my ad
enjoy prominence over theirs? Simply, dear Christian single, because you
have used a technique that draws that lonely heart right into your presence,
by gazing squarely at them with the sweetest, heart-stopping look. They will
have to pull themselves away if they want to check out the other Christian
singles. And frankly, we don’t want them to look any further than your ad,
do we? And what do you think the other 40% are doing wrong with their
picture that does not attract attention and admiration? They send in a photo
taken from such a distance, and probably blurry too, that it rivals the old
“Big Foot Running in the Woods” picture. (all you can say about such a
half-hearted, half baked effort is that it beats the effort of no-picture
at all, which isn’t saying much.)
There are plenty of other photo errors that I hope you sweet Christian singles will studiously avoid; these include taking the photo on a bad hair day, wearing a sloppy shirt or a top with yesterday’s lunch dried on it. You get the picture. Remember, if you can arrange to be photographed in front of a fantastic background, whether a beautiful scenic spot or a shot of you doing something you love, then the background will not merely be empty space, but frame you in a context of beauty, or zest for life.
So, now, Christian single, we have eliminated 50% of your competition! When you consider that many online dating hopefuls find out they have been lied to about age, weight, interest in marriage, etc., they will dump the fibbers and try harder to find an honest, reliable single. Though there might not be as many “integrity-challenged” online daters on the Christian sites as on the secular ones, those who lie will be reported to the dating service and dropped from the membership roll. Included with these deceptive, cyberspace Pinocchios, this Christian dating service does not permit any harassment nor bad behavior either, thus, some of your competition is eliminated due to character flaws. Now another 5% of your competition has bit the dust. In addition, you can figure that many single online daters refuse to move away from their home to marry (let alone their state.) Then more will sit around and wait for someone to answer their ad instead of taking a proactive step and e-mailing someone else whose profile sounds promising. That might wipe out another 25% of your competition, leaving only 20% to contend with for the available singles within your particular age group, location, denomination, etc.
Christians, outshine all clueless dating singles by perfecting your personals ad!
You have agreed (your Christian dating coach assumes) that you will outshine all the other (20%) clueless dating hopefuls by taking time to polish your essay and ask a friend’s opinion of it. You will also have someone proof read your ad, and correct spelling if necessary. Just as you would dress in the finest attire for your wedding, you will not settle for less with this all important essay introduction. Please remember, the Christian single reading your ad will be hanging on every word, trying to find clues that prove you are the one they’re looking for. Think about it!
Now, what to do about the last 20% of lovelorn hopefuls who want a wonderful Christian man or woman as much as you do. Ahh, now we have come to the time to reveal the secret ingredient which will elevate your recipe for a personals ad into the heavenly realm, far out of reach for the casual online dater and their mediocre ads. You have heard it said that God will make all things work together for good for those who love Him. So your first step is to ask our Lord to be involved in this search for the mate He wants you to have. As you have seen throughout the Bible, God is a great matchmaker, and He appears to enjoy the role. Take the first couple, for example: OK, God didn’t have any other singles available then, so Adam naturally was overjoyed to get Eve. (And if it hadn’t been for that unpleasantness in the Garden with the snake, they might have lived happily ever after.) But the Lord, full of compassion, gave the first parents a house full of kids (which must have strained their marriage immensely,) but they didn’t ask for a divorce. Imagine having (according to Jewish lore) 20 plus boys and 20 plus girls, over a period of years, and going through teething, diaper rash, and the terrible twos, and they didn’t even have a nanny! It boggles the mind, doesn’t it, Christian singles? Looking back to Adam’s plea for a mate of his own, (like all the other creatures had) Adam, now married and up to his ears in dirty diapers and squalling kids, must have coined the phrase, “Be careful what you wish for!” But I digress. God also liked to arrange marriages, and has yet another marriage supper planned, the marriage supper of the Lamb! We can be sure His best china will grace the table, and the wedding will be beautiful beyond imagination. The Groom, of course, will light the Great Halls of Heaven with His splendor. And His Bride shall wear her exquisite Robe of Righteousness, purchased for her on the cross 2000 years ago, which has the power to transform her into His Perfection, covering all her imperfections, warts and all!
How many of the 20% of your rivals know that the search for a perfect mate should begin in prayer with the heavenly Matchmaker? Sure, many know, but will they follow through or try to do it themselves, without asking God for direction? We make the mistake of not turning to our Father when important decisions must be made. This would include choosing the best personal ad to respond to, and this includes you, too ladies! (The great advantage of online dating is that we gals are on a level playing field in initiating a first meeting with those wonderful Christian men we’d like to know. Christian online dating has changed the rules, and a woman is no longer considered forward or unfeminine if she e-mails the gentleman first. After all, she is merely reaching out in friendship to great guy who shares her faith and many interests. Unlike offline dating in your city, where it is awkward for a woman to make the first move and invite a special guy out, it is normal and customary for women to respond to men’s ads as well.
Why not invite the Lord with you as you scan the personal ads, and ask Him to help you choose someone? And then pray that the person you choose will also get confirmation that you are a good prospect. At this point, dear Christian single, we can’t assume that marriage is assured, but we are open to any developments. We can ask God to protect us, to keep us from contacting any online dating member who is not good for us, in any way. God knows the secrets of their hearts, and their motivations, Christian singles. We might not ever see through a manipulative person, but God has their number! In addition, if you are open to God’s communication with us through dreams and visions, you may ask the Lord to give you instruction or information from the heavenly realm in the form of a dream or vision. If you aren’t familiar with this way that God communicates with His children, you could learn more about it from web sites like extreme prophetic.com or go through Google.com to access god.tv.com I will list some books on the subject at the end of this article for those interested. Dreams, visions, and word of knowledge will open a window to heaven that you never imagined and revolutionize your walk with the Lord. More on this exciting topic later, Christian singles!
Watch for more help in preparing you for online dating, Christian style!
We also need to ask God to help us overcome shyness, depression, or anxiety before meeting an online dating site member. I will soon have available a great wealth of material to help you overcome any of these problems and show you how to have peace and happiness in the midst of difficulties. Please keep coming to cherish mates.com for more inspiration and help. It is offered free to you by your Christian brothers and sisters with the prayer that your life will come together and your joyful, sunny disposition will draw a Christian mate to you. In the coming weeks we will show you some concrete ways to assure you have that sunny disposition, through several simple steps you will find enjoyable and easy to accomplish. Yes, Christian singles, there are ways to conquer fear, negative thinking, pain from traumatic experiences, and making the mistakes of the past time and time again. And all of this enlightenment comes straight from the pages of the Bible! Yes, dear heart, the Lord has the answers to any problem or question you have and we will mine the Scriptures for these timeless gems of wisdom. Your body, soul and spirit, Christian single, are in for a thrilling, rejuvenating experience with none other than the Great Matchmaker! Please bookmark us and visit soon for further information. In the meantime, may you walk closer than ever with our dear Lord, and trust Him in all things.
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